Bojanala – Rustenburg Region
I don't have much with friends. I have one friend who is a little bit older than me. He's single and had been divorced three times. I don't see him very often. And then I have one other friend who is married and There are times he gets critical with me and he can't do things for himself.
When I come home from work, I don't feel like talking to anyone. I would in a couple of hours later. I live at a condo complex that I'm not crazy about.
There are no compatible neighbors for me. I feel very lonely; and I want to sell and move out. But I can't seem to bring myself to do it. The rents are high, but so is owning with repairs and medical expenses that I have and more in the future. I would like to live in a community where I would have things in common with others. There seems to be so many lonely people I see on the internet. I wish that we can get together. I have met over the past 10 years, 5 very nice gentlemen, who were looking for a mate and I could not bring myself to abandon my single state.
They were lovely men and have all gone on to marry someone else. So this is my advise, if you ever want to marry? Don't live alone too long. Canada " Lived alone since At age of 56 now, I'm sick, tired and very lonely, I feel I'm cursed.
I'm a good person to everyone. I'm in very good shape still and have my looks. Been in fitness for 30 years. At age of 53, I ended dating my friend whom I've known since my 20s. We had lot in common and both very picky on whom we date. We had a great relationship, we both thought this was meant to be after all these years, after we both ended bad relationships, we were meant to be together. Sadly three years later, my soulmate passed away suddenly, no warnings. Worse, on our romantic vacation.
Almost year and half later, I haven't been the same. God designed my life to live with suffering, loneliness. As soon as I find happiness, its taken away. Living alone is not fun, no one to talk to, no one to share your day with, solo travel is unconfortable and lonely.
Seeing friends, acquaintances with their partners makes me more lonely. We both thought, finally, we have what we both want. I miss him so much that I don't know how to live alone anymore.
Future is bleek, no family, friends far and few in between, aging alone is terrifying. For people that say being alone is good, you never had a good relationship.
I experienced it for at least few years out of my whole life. I'm afraid, I may never love again. I had a disastrous marriage which I ended to bring up my son away from an alcoholic husband. I never remarried and only had 1 other long term relationship which petered out because I could not bring myself to say yes to his proposals, Once bitten twice shy I suppose. I do get lonely, of course I do, and sometimes I cry because of it.
I often feel left out of things because there is no doubt that this is a world made for couples. But there is so much I love about being alone. I don't have to do anyone's washing and ironing, I can eat what and when I like, I can watch what I like on tv and so on. But the best thing for me is not having someone to judge me. Relationships in the past always left me feeling I wasn't quite good enough.
My hair wasn't long enough, I put on weight, I said the wrong thing in company etc. Now I only have myself to please. I meet up with friends fairly regularly so I have some social contact and I am a church goer which gets me out of the house.
I sometimes envy my co workers who are in relationships especially when it comes to taking holidays or Christmas comes round but then I am also aware of the compromises they have to make to keep their partner happy. I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect relationship really.
For me, I would have liked someone to be close with but it didn't happen and now it is too late. I couldn't give up my life as it is and go to all the bother of accommodating another human being in my living space. At this point I only need occasional companionship. I am financially stable and own my own little house and garden. I look after my elderly mother and have visits from my adult son.
I am a bit of an introvert and i think that helps with living alone. You have to do everything by yurself. Man I hate it Being 81 and alone is not easy.. Being separated since after 17 years of marriage has changed me inward and outward alot. I was struggling to get out it for very long is because of my daughter.
She's 18 now and understand situation better. Well, I tried dating few gals out there and ended up with one bad relationship and decided not to get into another one again for almost 2 years. This 2 years alone was fantastic. My normal routine getting work in the morning and meeting clients, having lunch, sometimes dinner. And I found something very different along the way. Got myself enrolled into yoga meditation which changed me inward and outward.
I've been practicing it for last 15 months like 30mins daily and I do it once I'm back from office. Cooking for myself is the other thing that I do and have picked up some nice recipes both from Asian and Western. Life will be happier if I can meet someone to talk to and share this happiness. Life is about you and how you see it.
I'm 51 by the way. Is it my imagination, or is the comment on top of the web-site " Many of the postings on this special site are very very long and may deprive others of being read once you've read a few of the biggies.
I would limit the number of characters a bit: Is it possible to add a date of when people posted? On one post I read someone suggested that if we are all lonely perhaps we should all meet up with each other. My school life was often very violent and my family were also violent and emotionally cold and I would often isolate myself for long periods of time, alone and confused at the family behaviour and struggles of growing up.
I was raised in an attic. My mother was emotionally distraught and my father was usually absent, I had few friends and did not get on well with people, and the neglect was so bad that I had to go to a psychiatric hospital. After college I simply drifted from job to job not really caring about anything or knowing what to do.
I left the house and despite my good education I went on to work more dead end jobs but at least I could afford a place of my own. A few more years of this and I saved up and moved, drifting from place to place and always with this confused and unhappy feeling, the situation got worse with solitary drinking, which I struggled with for many years. It is hard to do anything when you have suffered a humiliating and abusive background and now no one loves you and there is no one to look after you when you fall, and you are too proud to believe in God or to beg to others.
It was really strange to discover how isolated I was and that some of the things happened weren't 'right'. I also discovered I was really suffering physically from the solitary drinking and from not taking care of myself but continued it because I felt there was no other way of dealing with life.
Finally this year I have succeeded to go to the gym, learn how to cook, physically take care of myself, groom correctly, study for a course while working etc. I still have nightmares about the family breakdown.
I keep reading on the internet about how to learn to "be happy" with yourself or how to find your inner child etc. This is such a joke. When you are seriously lonely and cannot cope and are having constant emotional breakdowns from the loneliness then there is no help.
No meditation or medication will pull you through. My life has been devastated from loneliness, in order to cope you have to throw everything you've got at it. Don't give it a second otherwise it will win. The main motivation I've had to trying to keep control of myself is to make sure I do not go back to a psychiatric hospital.
I've seen how people are broken while living in hospitals and become reliant on their caregivers. No that cannot happen to me. People who crone at others for their loneliness are missing the point or painfully lonely themselves. I'm 29 and I do not care if I am 29 or 89, I think this experience of loneliness has taught me to be stronger.
But I do not want to be an emotionless shell. And I am afraid that my life alone will keep me alone. If that happens I will probably go back and live my life in care. But I will take my own advice and do everything I can and anything I can do to overcome it. I am divorced and have my children half the week with me and share child care equally with my ex wife. Got divorcd 4 years ago and are still good friends with my ex wife.
Six months after I got divorced I met someone else. We lived together foir just over two years. I loved her dearly and thought the world of her, however she had a different agenda and nearly destroyed me both physically, emotionally, mentally and financially. I just didnt see it coming Until one day I made the decision to walk away I couldnt stay with someone who was such a control freak and who was clearly unhinged. I got myself an apartment and finally began to get to know myself.
I realised that I had nearly always been in relationships since I was 15 and that this was going to be the first time I was truly on my own. And its been this way for the past couple of years. Ive had some casual relationships with girls, but nothing more has came of it.
Im now very unsure about things. Part of me likes the single life as, with the exception of my children and work, I can come and go as I please and can do what I want. But then there is part of me that gets very lonely and longs to have an adult to share my life with and yes, I will say it I miss having a loving sex life. So Im not sure what will happen. Part of me believs that it is out of my control, and that God, or the Universe needs me to be on my own for a while longer and that I will meet someone when the time is right.
Another part of me thinks Good luck to everyone on here, and I hope you all get what you want and need " Diane druff hotmail. But from it is now it is lonely I would like to meet someone to talk to once in awhile" Anita UK " It's a very good site, I'm able to relate my feelings with everyone here. I'm a 33 year old female had lived alone for 5 years after a broken marriage. I was lucky to get a good friend 2 years ago with whom I spend majority of time going out, watching TV, having food together etc, but he is looking for a girl to get marry and settle down soon due to his family pressure.
I will be surely isolated again and it will be difficult to cope up again but is not going to be new anyway as I lived 5 years on my own alone before.
Living alone was hard initially but later situation became better. My mind settled, relaxed and got free from stress as compared to my married life where I was completely stressed out and was about to suicide at one point. It took great strength to recover and apply for divorce. After my divorce, I spent my time at work, built good friendship network, I kept my flat neat, clean and beautiful, fresh flower, candles kept me relaxed.
Watching TV, searching internet on any topics like business, economy to yoga, meditation kept me occupied. I started to enjoy the freedom, I started to think big like to do something to the society, travel extensively, learn new things, understand new culture, tradition, enjoy the nature etc. However, at times, I get this feeling, that, whether I'm making the mistake of choosing to live alone rather than finding someone to share life with and build a family.
Because when I was at young age, I enjoyed the comfort of being in family with parents and sisters. Now without anyone, even though I'm alright now, but will I ever miss these things in future when I get older? I heartily admire those brave hearted single soles! Although i am older than her, i was struck by lisa the last person on here and how her feelings mirror mine.
Like lisa, i do worry about dying alone and no one finding you, very recently just down road from me a lady of70, not old by todays standards who had worked for same company til last year, was found dead in her home, she laid there for weeks, her old boss said shed had good social contacts, well hardly if noone noticed she wasnt around!
I agree a nice comfortable home does help make you feel better, i have a nice little e flat which i have furnished very confortably and i always sit down to proper meal at the table,no tv dinners which i am sure lots of single people have. But sometimes if you live alone, that isolating feeling comes over you, however many friends you have as most of mine have partners, i do get included in lots of things by them i know, but you havent anyone, they have and it is hard, and im not sure if deep down you get used ever to living on yout own all the time.
I don't think I am cut out for living with anyone else! I'm 44 and have never married or wanted children. I have many female friends who are very like me in that regard. I used to think I would meet someone and settle down, but now I don't think I ever will. I hope though that one day I will meet a man who likes his own space as much as I do, but I seem to attract lonely men who want to live with me after a few dates. I would advise anyone living alone to make it a priority to create a nice home for themselves, and to keep it clean.
In the UK, there are furniture projects which provide used furniture and household items for people on benefits or very low incomes, and of course there are car boot sales and charity shops I love my home, and have taken great care to make it cosy and welcoming. If your home looks depressing, you feel depressed.
I've met many single men who live in squalor, but don't know any women who do. I think often men don't see the point of looking after themselves. The worst thing about living alone is sometimes I worry especially when I can't sleep about dying alone, having a heart attack or stroke with nobody to rescue me.
I sometimes have a terror of the dark and have to keep the light on, just like when I was a child and long to have someone snoring besides me. I don't miss sex, because I can have that whenever I want an advantage of being female , but I do miss having a companion, someone to make me laugh and to share my life just not every day! I think I would be more intelligent and lively with a partner, and worry less, but I'd rather be alone than with someone who is not on the same wavelength.
There's a purpose there are 6 billion people on this planet. This fact should be enough to ignite hopes for those who feel they will never be able to find anyone to share their life with someone. In India, we live together as families, most of us.
But you still tend to feel lonely when you can't relate with those around you. I've had troubles growing up too. When I was in teenage I wasn't physically alone but in other aspects I was. I know loneliness is not a pretty place to be, and those who claim they like being alone only find a way to make it pretty. Now, since I know what it feels to not have anyone in your hour of need, I have made this motto in my life to touch someone's life with the loving heart God has blessed me with, and just to be there regardless of everything else.
The solution to our problems is love. All we need is love. The beauty of love is it grows even more when you share it. And when you serve others with the love that you have in your heart, you unconsciously fix your problems too.
All of you are beautiful souls, each and everyone of you. And I hope that you be strong and always strive to be better than what you were. My parents let me stay with them while I was going to school and sort of waiting for the economy to "bounce back" ha ha, that's not going to happen, it seems.
I found a little apartment not far from where I work and it seems like a peaceful sort of neighborhood, but I still can't bring myself to actually sleep there, even though I've paid for this month and everything. I just felt like it was something I have to do now, if I wait into my thirties that's just pathetic, and how will I ever really learn to be a self-sufficient adult if I don't leave my parent's house?
I will miss my mother terribly, she's my best friend and because I know she will miss me just as much it makes it even harder, thinking that I am hurting her, even though we both know everyone has to go through with this. I never thought of myself as weak, or overly emotional, but I've cried more this week than I ever have" margaret kent UK " ive lived alone since age When I was small my parents kind of "forgot me" at home for some years, I guess it is because of that freaky experience that I am so afraid of living alone.
The problem is that I have a lot of difficulties making friends, because I am very shy, and life seems to pass me by unnoticed.
Sometimes it feels like there is something wrong with me, but maybe there isn't, and I am just too sensitive and most people aren't. The only periods in my life when I was happy were when I was living in a community, or sharing a house with nice people and having a steady social life.
Men I won't even mention, they don't like me, for some still mysterious reason; the idea that it will always be like that kills me - my plan is to recover from some health issues I have and start doing volunteering as a way of life, so at least I will always have some people around..
Looking at the statistics, I find it amazing how fragmented life is. How we so exaggerated the process of individuation, becoming individuals The problem is not about finding ways to entertain myself or being productive as a person living alone. It is about being part of a world in which the whole humanity is isolated from itself, from its true essence.
Some may find this way of thinking quite exaggerated. But I think simply because as every single thing in the world exist within the same context it is impossible to miss the connection.
We are so disconnected in the world of limitless interconnectiveness It is not about physical proximity, or the requirement for it or the unnecessary of proximity thanks to electricity, silicon chips hence the net It is about deeper mental processes lost so many millennia ago replaced by the constant desire to have, to touch, to boast, to compete, win Everybody is alone no matter how many people they have around them, so scarred by the very same things that they do not even recognize as scars But there is a contradictory side to all this.
I can only be human and continue with my humanization among other human being as a social animal. However, I can only be and do this among real human like beings, which is not about the shape, ability to talk, contemplate and act. In my country I was living with my parents and that was utterly humiliating experience. I felt so weak and powerless those days. After high school I went into the army for one year the longest year of my life. I don't need to explain that being in army I was totally deprived of freedom and dignity, to say nothing of basic human rights.
Anyway, I do not regret that episode in my life. After my military service I was on a dole for six months still living at my parents place. After I lost my unemployment benefit I was motivated by hunger mainly to take some casual jobs as my parents didn't support me except of giving me a shelter.
Depression made it all even more twisted. In that period I had a very serious crisis and I attempted to commit suicide by slashing my wrists. I knew that I have to go away, though not necessary this way.
As my country joined EU and I was entitled to live and work, study, etc. I sold all precious things I had and borrowed some money. I bought a one-way ticket to Ireland. I don't know why but I was always curious about this country, history and people living there and when opportunity arose my decision was immediate. My first job in Ireland was very, very hard I was dealing with farm animals. I wasn't really familiar with this kind of activity at all. At that stage I was sharing a cottage with the family I was working for.
That remote place was at close proximity of Sligo western part of Ireland. After few weeks I was physically exhausted but mentally revived and I decided to leave that job and find something different. I saved some money so I was able to survive. Things went not necessary well and for some period of time after I quit the job I was homeless wandering around and sleeping in abandoned places. Nonetheless I didn't give up.
After few weeks I arrived to Dublin. I found a job in construction sector that was "a piece of cake job" comparing to previous one. I found accommodation in a big house occupied by countless number of tenants. Most of them were uncouth heavy drinkers. I shared small room in that house with one roommate for six months. My salary increased and I was able to rent a room on my own in shared house.
In the last three years I moved out and in several times. Recently I decided to rent my own place. I've been living on my own just for few weeks so at this stage it is difficult for me to judge: I have a sense of freedom and independence and having loads of hobbies I never experience boredom but sometimes I realize that living for myself only is not enough.
I have very few friends actually they are mostly my workmates. From time to time I pay a visit to whores and I do it rather because of unbearable feeling of desperation, isolation and loneliness I'm definitely not sex maniac kind of guy.
I have an overwhelming impression that I'm getting older and older and that probably I lost my way in some period of my life Maybe the real, full life is passing me by and my journey through life is meaningless, purposeless misunderstanding?
Tony Phoenix Arizona " I live alone for two reasons. One is that I have Asperger's and it is difficult for me to relate to people and meet a female who will understand me. The other is that because of sexual abuse when I was a child I have trouble letting people in my private space. So I guess both reasons either work in sync or cancel each other out. I have learned over the years to fill my time with various hobbies, forms of entertainment and pastimes.
I am often on Xbox live or the PSN network. I watch a lot of movies on Netflix. I have become quite the good cook. Holidays and Sunday mornings are the hardest to deal with. Those are times I associate with being in the company of a loved one.
You never get used to being lonely; you only learn to accept it to a certain degree. Have had two children with me until recently when the youngest moved out to travel and go to college. Now, I'm an "empty-nester", living on my own and holding a mixed bag of feelings about it. I'm a good person and want to share some aspect of my goodness with another. And I truly value independence too. It's not an either-or for me. I'm a social being. I have many really good friendships that I care and nurture actively.
I want to love, and be loved, hold someone in kindness and be held, care for another and be cared for too. Is that too much to ask? Living alone raises intelligence for those who know how to use the TV and Internet wisely But it's always good to know that "It's better to BE alone than to wish you were".
Benefits are plenty - your own schedule, solace and time to meditate, no need to rush through housework, do the bed only if you feel like it. Watch a movie at 6 am just because it's on TV and you missed it 10 years ago! Eat only the foods you want, choose the furniture you want. Exercise, practise yoga as and when you like without worrying about what you're wearing at the moment.
The best bit - for me at least - is having the freedom to think for myself. Many married men assume that they can use me and my place for sex. I've had one former platonic, male friend blatantly announced to me that he will use my place to bed his girlfriends whenever he came into town! He didn't get why he'd offended me. You'd be amazed at who they are - and how insidious.
I moved out of my parents house because I''m turning 30 in a few months time and felt bad because I'm still living with my parents.
A lot of people are surrounded by their friends and love ones and yet still lonely. I kept myself busy at work, volunteering my extra time or drive to the country side for relaxing mood. CA Kingston Ontario Canada " ive been living alone for about 20 yrs now , after my divorce. Embrace your freedom and then find time for activities with others after all people are social beings and we all need hobbies or dates or club time or church whatever outlet you find will fill a natural need!
I have call the police but they do not do anything because there is no sign of breaking and entry. I think they pick my lock. This really upsets me because I try to get along with my neighbors by saying hello to them. I am a private person and like to spend time by myself at home.
I like to go out and meetup with friends. I've been separated for 14 months and live alone in a remote rural setting. Though initially sad to loose one reality I now embrace this one. I actually love living alone and do not get bored of myself. If you find yourself living alone, respect yourself, watch the internal dialogue and have self-discipline.
Keep a routine, do your chores and have pride in yourself and belongings I've met and been out with a few women but it's going to take someone very special for me to ever give up the pleasures of a private and quiet home life. Many people live alone because they haven't found the right partner and are agonizing over ever finding them.
Loneliness is their companion. My heart goes out to them. Others live alone after leaving the nest, graduating from school, etc. No partner, but plenty of optimism that one is on the horizon.
For them, living alone is a temporary state that they will enjoy for the time being. Then there are those who live alone because it is the lifestyle they have chosen. Often they found themselves alone for one of the previously mentioned reasons and decided to stick with the solo life. That decision changes everything. When you choose your lifestyle, everything about it changes! Some say we are meant to be with someone else.
Everyone has a right to their opinion. AND that's all it is, opinion. Those of you choosing solitude, please don't accept any guilt for enjoying your life. For finally taking care of yourself first. For allowing yourself to become so engrossed in an acitivity that the whole evening melts away. It would be hard to be that involved with something with a partner or family moving about on the sidelines.
And let's don't feel guilty because we're doing what we really want, instead of working on a relationship because our society insists that's the "norm. I live quietly, and plainly, and I love it. It took a while to get my head on about it. There were 10 kids in my family and I've been getting up with a baby since I was I hadn't taken a bath by myself, or even visited the toilet, alone until I got married at That tiny bit of new privacy was such a revalation and a joy!
At 48, after the failure of my third committed relationship I was so broken that I could barely raise my head for a year. I won't go into details-all of us have had broken hearts, we all know how it feells-but I decided to make my life on my own. I didn't even know what to make myself for breakfast. I was always thinking of someone else. I started experimenting and found out a lot about myself. Sounds dim, maybe, but when you spend your whole life taking care of other people you end up being little more than a mirror for other people's needs.
Now I work on my art every day, my writing, and I am a vegan. My 2 cats provide all the companionship I need and I enjoy my own company enough that being with other people is fun because I choose it-not because I'm afraid to be alone.
Maybe if I'd been healthy enough to do all this at the beginning of my life I would be in a healthy relationship now.
Then again, maybe I wouldn't have been foolish enough to be broken 3 times before I figured out that I was always going to choose the wrong person because I wasn't a complete person on my own. I don't think about things that way much, because it's a waste of time and mental energy. My philosophy now is "It is what it is.
And my life is full. I've found--vis a vis dating--that men of my age group want--and get--a partner 10 years younger. Now, I just learned to snowboard over the Holidays. A year-old "boyfriend" sounds more like a nursing job than a love life. But if you know of any attractive, single, male, year-old snowboarders, be sure to drop me a line, eh? I am begging for help to get her to me for a reasonable cost. I love living alone and plan dinners with friends and soon hope to join dog walkers in my community.
The feelings of loneliness and dread overtake me but I haven't been out a year yet. Reading the accounts related to me here, give me courage and also scare the he'll out of me. My parents pay my rent,own my car and provide moral support on every level. And it is hard as hell still.
Then I realize we all have the power to break this spell we cast upon ourselves. We just have to keep our brains active and our bodies physical.
On top of it all I quit every substance i was abusing my body with. I registered for my GED and am about to enroll in a comedy collage. I've lived alone for 9 years now, and up until about a year ago, isolation started to consume me.
The years prior, i adjusted very well living alone, and engaged myself in many activities without a problem. Doing things alone i. Is there a site to guide me for friendships without engaging in single sites geared towards dating? The lack of personal socializing is becoming overwhelming! I live close to the beach and can go any time I want. There is so much I can do by myself yes, like being naked in the house when I want, and leaving the dirty dishes overnight.
I have everything I want except a companion who will stay with me overnight. I do have a companion but he likes being single and would love to live alone.
I go to sleep at night and wake up in the mornings thinking about being alone. It is not a good feeling. I think about getting a roommate, even though my apartment is small the sofa is fine but I often think about not getting along with the roommate should a problem arise. Can't have them both huh? I'm learning to live alone, but it is taking me time to enjoy it.
I love myself and I love others. I've been married twice for short periods of time and raised kids alone for a total of about 13 years. The younger one just went off to culinary school about a month ago. There's such a big difference now. Before, I was always responsible for everyone else, my kids, husband, and all of the kids at work because I teach high school.
There was never any time for me. For half of my 47 years now, I always came last on the list and somehow I never got down to the last item. Sure, it gets a little too quiet around here sometimes, but for once I can make decisions on what to cook or whatever without thinking about someone else's likes or dislikes.
I had always looked out for everyone else and no one did for me It's my turn to be taken care of by me I've always had my hobbies, and I also enjoy keeping in touch with my friends around the world on the internet. You can never have enough friends, I think. In fact, I've got "openings" for new ones if anyone is interested.
Never had a room-mate, but had two husbands. The last husband was 33 years ago and I haven't had a date since. I don't get lonely. I have virtually total freedom, constrained only by interest and occasionally finances, i. I own my own home, am going to retire sometime in the next 5 years and can't wait to have more time to myself. They say it takes a special "breed" to enjoy living alone I am that breed.
There is nothing more special to me than the fact that I don't have to ask anyone for approval. To me, freedom is the pinnacle of life. I have to admit that I was afraid, though not sure of what exactly, perhaps of not knowing what I was getting into.
Now, several years later, I think that living alone is one of my most cherished life experiences. At this point, I find that living alone totally outweighs living with someone that the latter seem to have lost all attraction for me. Maybe living alone has made me more self-centered since I do what I want to do when I want to do it without having to consider anyone else, but this is a fault that I'm willing to live with: After all, I think we are essentially alone whether we live on our own or with another.
My experience of solitude has taught me a lot about myself - most importantly that I, am my best friend. I don't date because I'm financially unstable.
In fact, I'm currently unemployed and on the verge of homelessness if i can't get a job soon. I don't know what to do anymore. I keep getting turned down from jobs, and rejected by women. It looks like Over the hill, broke, alone and homeless is how my life is turning out. The "one" I have believed in marriage and family and sought it out above all lese since I was a teenager.
I've never found it. I cannot stand living with someone. I was married briefly years ago and have over the last 20 years lived with 3 other men in commited relationships. I'm tired of berating myself and feeling like a failure because my expectations are too high. I'm also too old to be naive. I'm not cut out for what I experience as the boredom and monotony of a live in spouse.
I have lived alone. I love my company. I love my pets. I love knowing my environment will look exactly as I left it. I rarely experience loneliness when I'm alone. The loneliest place I've even known is in a relationship sitting beside a person you have nothing to say to. I'm in my mid 40's with a very successful career, a great grown son I own 3 properties, I have an Rv I take on my own No one else has ever brought anything to the table, financially or emotionally.
I know we all need people. We need to be cared for however being taken for granted is far worse than any moment of lonely blues. There are some people who are better on their own. Selfishness is sometimes simply self awareness.
I'm tired of giving everything and feeling taken getting so little in return. I believe we are all responsible for ourselves and no one has the right to tell other people how to live. My current partner complains I don't tell him what to do enough, call him on his bs, run things. Why would I want to do that? And why would any self respecting person tolerate it? Some people are just that independent. We are still loving and caring but not everyone is cut out for living with someone.
Perhaps it's time to stop judging and start accepting Dave Toronto Canada " My thoughts It's expensive when you don't make good pay. Sometimes you can barely make ends meet. It's lonely when you do have the free time, and nobody to share it with. It's difficult when you have to keep moving from place to place. Moving is time consuming and expensive. It's the way my life turned out It's worrisome for the future.
USA " I am now living by myself for the first time in 20 years and I guess I'm a little confused still and lonely. My partner has gotten very ill with depression and tardive dyskenisia involentary movements She has the symptoms of alztimers and cannot take care of herself any longer.
I caregave her for the past five years and it's taken a toll on me. I finally had to find a assisted living home for her, It;s been very hard on me but a necessary thing to do. I still go to see her several times a week to make sure she is taken care of. I bring her coffee drinks and snacks to keep her busy and have some things of her own. I'm living alonbe but not really. Letting go has been a dificult thing to do. I'm 66 and starting over is awfully hard. I just dont know where to start.
She is gone but not really you know? I have no help from her family so I cant really just walk away. I wish I could say that living alone is fun but so far it sure isnt. Finances are hard because we shared everything but when she went into assisted living I stopped accepting money from her. Her expenses are enough for her to bare.
She has enough to take care of herself at least for now so I'm not worried about her. I on the other hand am having a difficult time going it alone. Everything is now on my platter and I'm on a fixed income. It;s ok for now but who knows down the road. One day at a time I guess. I just needed to vent a little.. I brought up my son alone and he is doing well. I remind myself often that The things I have achieved, although not earth shattering, I did by myself and I can take pride in that.
I also feel that I am a stronger person because i hve to deal with problems alone and solve them myself.
That is not to say that Living alone is always easy. I miss having someone to love me for who I am , even though I never had that in the first place. I don't go on holiday because everyone is in a couple and I feel as though i am odd being alone. I don't have to try and please anyone else which I always do in relationships.
I own my own house which I love. I can eat when I want ,go out when I want, come home when I want, get up when I want , go to bed when I want, read or watch tv. The list is endless. My married friends don't have this freedom. Yes, being in a close , loving relationship is the ideal but it doesn't happen for everyone and certainly not for me but living alone isn't all bad. This is my first computer and I am new to the internet. I have never posted a comment before but I enjoyed reading all your comments.
I don't feel quite so different now" Don flakjakit hotmail. Living alone is living an unbalanced life, without purpose, without love. I live alone and hate it. Can't wait to find the love of my life!
My point is, I don't really think I would like to have more kids, as I already have one from a previous relationship. So instead of having all this, maybe it's better to live alone Well, I'm 39 years old and I have a 13 year old son. I've never been married, although my girlfriend has been living with me for the past 2 years. I had a lot of girlfriends along the years.
Till 3 years ago I used to work far away from my hometown, so I was here only during the weekends. I know my actual girlfriend for 6 and a half years now. She always wanted to get really married and also have kids. I've been postponing this conversation as much as I could, but it got to a point where we can't live like this anymore.
I don't really think I wanna have more children as I'm not such a family guy. So I think we'll have to break-up. She already said she'll go back to her mother's house until she can find a place for her.
I like her but I think that this will probably be the best solution for us. I don't really know what to expect. I'm a good looking guy, not the most beautiful around, but I think I'm much better that some. I work-out every day, keep my body in shape, etc. I like doing my things like going to the beach, playing my PS3, playing drums with my band, going to the gym, etc I try to be a good father for my son, but I know I'm not the best.
I don't even try that hard to be the best. I lived 10 years alone, from 97 to 07, but always had girlfriends and a lot of other girls. Maybe this is the kind of life that I can live. So I'll probably be back on the streets again knowing some more new women as well as reconnecting with known women from the past. I kind of get sad about all this, because maybe it would be easier to just go with the flow and marry, have kids, etc But I'm so reluctant in doing this that I'm really afraid that things would be much worse in the future with wife and kids.
I think it'll probably be good to be alone again. I too live alone and have a mixture of all those feelings. Living alone is an eye opening experience. It is like looking in a mirror 24 hours a day.
Of course, everyone's situation is different. I retired early; 6 months ago. I am 56 years old. I have one child a daughter who is living a good life with a good partner. I am truly happy for her. Considering what I experienced, I prayed her experiences would not be the same and thus far, its not.
My family and friends chuckle at me. I have become a hermit. I only leave the house to go to the grocery store, doctor, and drug store lol. I have limited mobility which pretty much keeps me homebound. I have a few visitors of my choosing. Others call and want to come over, but something inside me just doesn't want. I always give some excuse to discourage them and most of the time it works. I think this is a bad thing. The more I am not around human beings, the less I want to be.
When you live alone, you become very set in your ways. I have interest that don't seem to interest other people lol. I enjoy metaphysics Edgar Cayce, Dr. I love having discussions about such subjects. I enjoy listening to 60's and 70's music. To me, that music was the greatest. I even enjoy listening to music by Kitaro which is an artist my friends have never heard of.
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